I’m at a weird point in my life. I’m not going to lie to you. I want to do so many things but I constantly have to remind myself I need to focus, to pick one thing and really be great at it. My brain is moving all the time, thinking, wondering, playing ‘what if’ way too much. I want to be a business owner and a photographer. I want to be a mother. I want to be an amazing wife. I want to go back to school and study psychology again. I want to travel. I want to be able to get out of debt (hello student loans!). And even though I’m barely 25, I have plenty of years ahead of me to do it. All of it. Why is remembering that so hard?
I don’t know what I really want to do with my life. I always thought I did but nope, I don’t. And that’s terrifying. For the longest time, I had a path. I was sure of that path. And I’m not anymore. I’m afraid I’m putting my energy into the wrong place. And while I know that anything I’m passionate about isn’t the “wrong place”, what if I’m wasting my time? What if I’m pouring energy into something that winds up going nowhere and I miss the opportunity for something else. What if I try to do too much and succeed at nothing?
I know that I’m not alone. I know there’s so many other people out there who want to succeed at so many things. I’m talking to you today. And myself, if we’re being honest. I’m writing to you to remind you everything I have to constantly tell myself. So, here goes:
Everything has a season in our lives. (Pippin’ anyone?). There will come a time for every journey you were meant to be on. Whether you think that’s true or not, I promise you it is. Right now is the part where you figure out everything you want from life. Write it down, make a list. Pay attention to what your heart is calling you to do RIGHT NOW. Maybe that’s one thing. Maybe it’s three. Figure out what it is and know yourself.
Look at that list. No, I mean really – take your eyes off this blog post and LOOK. Be honest with yourself. Can you really handle a full time job, running a business (or two), running a house, trying to have a baby and going back to school? If you can, send me a note. Because you’re superwoman. I urge you to focus on what your heart is calling you to do right now. If that’s school and a baby, go for it mama! If it’s a business and going back to school? Go for it, boss lady! If it’s running your business on the side to make it grow while you work full time and hopefully start a family while getting your life in order? Yes. Do it. If it’s your education? YES. If it’s anything that makes your heart sings, PLEASE do it… but always keep this next part in mind…
People always say “do whatever it takes” and I think that’s great. But there’s a line in the sand, ladies (and gents!). Don’t push yourself so hard trying to accomplish everything at once and lose your life in the meantime. Remember your WHY. Why do I run my business? Because I love creating memories that last a life time. Because I love my clients. Because it’s enjoyable to me. Why do I want to go back to school? Because I love learning. Because it will hopefully allow us more financial freedom. Because it would allow me to get a day job I truly love. Why do I want a family? Because I love my husband. I love our life and I want to enhance it with the sound of little feet and laugher. The moment you forget your WHY, you lose yourself. The late nights and long days don’t feel like they’re worth much. You burn out, you lose hope. Don’t do that to yourself!
It’s okay to say you can’t do it all RIGHT NOW. But that doesn’t mean you never will. There is nothing wrong with focusing your energy on what you want and can actually do at the moment. You have a long life ahead of you. I can’t tell you what your RIGHT NOW or your WHY is — I can barely figure out mine. There is time for every journey you’re going to make. I promise you. Even when it feels like you’re the only one struggling, know you’re not alone. Every season will come – start figuring out what feels good right now and GO FOR IT. I’m cheering you on!
xoxo,
Kristina
Kristina
Thank you for reminding me to focus on one thing at a time! Im at that point in my life as well where I have a list of things I’d like to accomplish but need to take it one step at a time.
I know it’s hard, but you can do it! 🙂
Thank you for your thoughts. This is exactly what I needed to hear today!
I’m so glad it was helpful! 🙂